The following are from Al-Anon members and Al-Anon literature.
We use these to keep us in and bring us back to serenity. Al Anon is for people who want it rather than people who need it. On Self Love and Self Care:. Learn to give from my overflow rather that from my reserve. This is self care, we learn to let go of burdens we were never meant to carry. Al-Anon is where we can practice kindness to ourselves. Any time I am in resentment, I am not taking care of myself. I am blaming someone else for something I need to do.
The higher the expectations, the lower the serenity. I try to keep my boundaries high, my expectations low, and my heart open. On the Steps:. Steps maintain it….
When we point a finger at someone, three are pointing back at us. On Feelings and Emotions:. Anger can be constructive in telling me that someone else is stepping on some boundaries that I need to enforce.
If encouraged, it cuts a channel into which all other thoughts are drained. All suffering is the result of thought pointing in the wrong direction. Thought does not change an emotion but action does.
On God, Prayer, and Meditation:. It protects us until we are equipped to cope with reality. What is going on with me?
This is what I need. This is what I feel. This is what I think. This is what I will do.
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On the Steps: Willingness comes from the pain, the healing comes from the steps. Step 1.
Surrender Step 2. Sanity Step 3. When I have a feeling, I lean into it and look at the idea behind the feeling.
I cannot give what I do not have. Every time I tell the truth, I gain my own freedom.
Quotes and Sayings
I need to be true to who I am to be able to have a sense of self. On God, Prayer, and Meditation: A coincidence is a little miracle in which God chooses to remain anonymous.
There are no mistakes, only lessons. ODAT pg Change can only come from a position of acceptance.
What ever your heart clings to, that is your God. Pause for Poise. Pain is something that comes and goes, suffering is something we hold on to. Resentment is anger re sent, it goes round and round resending the feelings.
Detachment When I blame someone else for something, I give up my power to them. Live in the present.
What you think of me is none of my business. It is easier to resist the bait than to struggle with the hook. My Happiness is My Responsibility Worry is a terrible waste of time.